Have you ever had felt like you have given your all and received nothing in return? Have you ever felt like no matter what you do, you would never be good enough? Have you ever felt like your voice and input doesn’t matter? Have you ever felt so much emotional pain that you just want to curl up in a ball and cry yourself to sleep?
If you answered yes to any of the questions above then you have had your heart broken either by a family member, significant other, co-worker or just anybody. In this post, I would be sharing with you somethings which have helped me heal.
With Time It Heals
If you have ever been injured physically then you know that the first couple of days, weeks or even months are brutal and painful, but as time goes by, it gets better. The same is true for emotional pain, realizing that it would suck and be painful at the beginning is the first step in your healing process.
Pain is Good
We all hate to feel emotional pain because it is uncomfortable and it forces us to face or portray emotions that we don’t necessarily want to. Pain is a huge part of the healing process, because it gives us the opportunity to self reflect and get to know ourselves better. Through pain and reflection we find strengths and weaknesses we never knew we had, and discover ourselves a little bit more. Our pain could also be a source of motivation
Talk About It
For an introvert and someone who suffers from perfectionism like myself, talking about things is usually a challenge, because I am letting my guard down, being vulnerable and coming to terms with the fact that I am not perfect and would never be. Over the years and through my many heart breaks, talking about “IT” has been one major key to my healing. Find a friend, family or anyone who could be your voice of reason and talk to them about how you are feeling. Let people in and let them be there for you. Never feel like you have to deal with whatever it is on your own. It takes courage to talk about matters of the heart. Find that courage, you already have it.
Look for Lessons Learned and Stay Away from the Blame Game
Every situation no matter how small has a lesson embedded in it. It is easier to blame ourselves or someone else instead of finding the lessons in our situation. Take some time off to reflect, journal and figure out what you can learn from that situation. Then move on, because no matter how much you time you spend thinking about it and blaming yourself or someone else you cannot change what happened, but instead you can spend your energy learning from it and figuring out next steps
Forgive
Forgive whoever made you feel so low and worthless not for them but for you. You can’t really move on unless you forgive and it takes a lot of strength to forgive someone. Forgiveness sets you free and gives you peace. Through forgiveness, you are giving yourself permission to move on and start a new chapter in your life. Forgiveness build resilience and takes away the power that the situation or person had over you.
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Alieh Kimbeng 