To Love and Be Loved

I normally don’t do post about love or intimate relationships because it is one of the aspects of my life that I keep super private. Falling in love is such a beautiful intimate thing which I like to hold close to my soul.

I am the girl who very few people know her relationship status, because I don’t kiss and tell or say yes and tell. You may find out I am with someone because you see us together all the time, or catch me gazing into their eyes once in a while but I won’t usually tell. So then why is a girl who keeps her love life super private writing about it to the world?

I was watching something on snapchat which inspired me to write this post. In today’s society we put so much barriers on the person we can and cannot love that we may never fully experience what it means to actually be loved by someone. Some of those barriers are, but not limited to age, gender, race, height etc. Sometimes we settle for someone because have deep rooted self esteem issues and we don’t believe we are worth more. Remember you cannot give what you do not have. If you don’t love yourself, you cannot love someone else intimately no matter how many boxes they check on your list.

In order to experience love, you gotta fall baby and when you fall you gotta fully love yourself and embrace all your imperfections and vulnerabilities. Only then can find the one who is worthy of your love.

My type of love has very few barriers, as long as I can look at you and say we can build something and grow together. If I can be calm and be myself around you then we are Gucci. If you can love me on my worst behavior and be okay with silence sometimes when are together then we are gold. If I can look at you and say if they don’t love me like you do then I don’t want it. (Be my standard). If all I long for after a stressful day is to lay in your arms then I know you can keep me going. If when we have big fights, the thought of walking away and breaking up doesn’t cross my mind, then I know we can make it through anything. If during those intimate moments you equally focus on pleasing me as much as pleasing yourself, then I know our love is selfless. If I hurt when I see you sad, break your heart or make you mad then I know you are a part of me.

Back to what inspired me to write this post. The snapchat show I saw was a 23 year old girl dating a 55 year old man and it was absolutely beautiful because they just truly enjoyed being with each other. So in case your are wondering, age is not a factor for me when it comes to choosing a partner, as long as we vibe.

Sincerely,
The girl who never writes about love!